Hi everyone,
Welcome to November 2015 Empower Within Coaching’s Blog.
The past 6-8 weeks, has been a little turbulent, has anyone else found that? Good news on the horizon – this month is all about positive transformation and change… It’ll rock our worlds; and if we choose to go within, we’ll see amazing transformation within ourselves.
This months blog is very close to my heart. Something that has come up for myself over the past few years, and I’m also picking up from my beautiful clients and good friends too.
FORGIVENESS FOR YOURSELF and OTHERS.
Something keeps occurring for me and I’m choosing to forgive myself. In 2011 to 2014, I learned this lesson big time. Going deep and healing a series of events that occurred with a particular person. It was a very ‘dark’, ‘introspective’ ‘enlightening’ and a transformational period. I’m now truly grateful for what went down! Though, will Blog another time on this huge period of time as many learning messages for me.
An event a few weeks ago, has helped me transform and heal at a deep level. I’m now consciously aware that this recent event has been a similar pattern throughout my life.
I’m now consciously aware that I’m so passionate to empower and help people at a deeper level; that my intuitive impressions/messages for that person, verbally come out; without permission given! EEK!
I teach all about being in your heart space and it’s OK to be Vulnerable (see my first blog post) and it’s very ok to feel, deal and heal. However, I have found that my good friends and family are not ready to hear this information. My intention is to not hurt, judge or make the person feel vulnerable but it seems the person is feeling these negative feelings and/or anger/hatred towards me!!
I acknowledge that in this recent event and in my past; I have not set boundaries and provided messages for people without permission. If the friend is not ready to hear the information and I blurt it out and I receive a negative response from that person; I then go into “I have done something wrong!”; ‘I feel ashamed for being me!’; “I wasn’t even meant to be there; why did I decide to stay”. I’m persecuting myself and/or feel persecuted by others – ‘nailed to the cross’ so to speak!
A number of learning messages for me keep coming up and the main healing message for me is: SELF FORGIVENESS!
SELF FORGIVENESS Yes, with this latest event; I went into my Dream/Impressions and Messages journal. As I’m flicking through my journal, the same message kept coming up… SELF FORGIVENESS! Wow – powerful words… again and again and again the words SELF FORGIVENESS kept coming up…
FORGIVENESS STRATEGIES and TOOLS
1. Forgiving Others that YOU may have hurt or ‘wronged’ in anyway
There are times in your life where you may consciously or unconsciously hurt someone. For example by ignoring someone; harsh words; physical violence; criticizing and put downs. You are not responsible for how the other person feels. However, there are some tools you can apply, to apologise and ask for forgiveness. By applying the following technique, you open your heart space and connect to unconditional love, compassion and joy.
Apologise to the person for your ‘hurtful’ behaviour. For me to apologise and acknowledge that I crossed the boundary of friendship and my message/s were not given permission to be stated. This is very significant and I now have strategies for setting boundaries with friends, family members and any person I connect with.
Say or write the following words DAILY for 2 weeks or longer if required and send them energetically to the person. This means, visualise the words as you say and/or write them and visualise the other person receiving your words. If you are able to, you can verbalise face to face. Sometimes, the person you have hurt may have passed away. That’s ok too, apply this tool and visualise the person receiving your words. This is heart to heart connection!
I’M SORRY. PLEASE FORGIVE ME. THANK YOU. I LOVE YOU.
2. Forgiving YOURSELF/SELF FORGIVENESS
It is now time to stop punishing yourself and to spend time FORGIVING YOURSELF.
By forgiving yourself, you allow your guilt and pain to disappear as you connect into your heart space. Once you are able to forgive yourself, you evolve and grow. You are able to connect to happiness, joy and love and being at peace within yourself. This is transformational!
State and/or write the following words Daily for 2 weeks or more if required.
I’M SORRY. I FORGIVE MYSELF. THANK YOU. I LOVE MYSELF.
3. Forgiveness of others
If you feel someone may have hurt you or ‘wronged’ you in anyway; you can CONSCIOUSLY CHOOSE to FORGIVE that person. Only you can choose to forgive!
You may condone or do not accept the other person’s behaviour; however, you are able to forgive that person. Forgiveness of others is at a much deeper level.
When we forgive others, we open our hearts and allow the anger, resentment, the poison that is inside of us to leave our body. We are able to connect to our heart and allow unconditional love, compassion and joy to flow in our heart and throughout our body.
FORGIVING OTHERS IS VITAL FOR OUR OWN PERSONAL GROWTH AND HEALING.
In dealing with clients, gorgeous friends and myself; I have found that the recent event that someone has ‘wronged you’; ‘hurt you; ‘made you vulnerable’ has occurred in the past.
Over the past few years, I have picked up energetically, that the recent event maybe connected at a deeper level to a deep-seated anger/resentment to an authority figure in your childhood; (Mother, Father, Grandparent, Aunt, Uncle, Teacher). It is at this deeper level, whether they are alive and/or passed away; to truly forgive this authority figure. To forgive at this core level is pure and magical. Your heart is open and all the negative feelings disappear.
4. Be in the Present Moment
Acknowledge that events occur in the PAST! You are unable to change back the clock and obviously you are unable to change the past.
Being in the present moment, allows us to just BE… We are not in our past or in our future, we are in the here and now. It’s time to FORGIVE YOURSELF and FORGIVE OTHERS NOW!
Forgiveness at this level allows your heart to open, for you to heal what you need to heal in this lifetime and move forwards in your own transformation.
Is there someone that you are ready to NOW forgive?
Is there an authority figure (Mother/Father etc) in your early childhood that you are able to NOW forgive?
Is there someone that you need to apologise and ask for forgiveness?
Do you need to NOW forgive YOURSELF?
If you are ready to forgive yourself and/or others; breakthrough any limiting beliefs, barriers and challenges that are holding you back and/or assist you in healing and personal growth:
Then drop me an email at emily@empowerwithin.com.au to see if I can help you in any way with the many inspirational tools and strategies or for more information.
Enjoy your soul journey and the power of forgiveness!
Love and wisdom
Emily xx
Emily Murphy is an Intuitive Life Coach Consultant with a 25 year extensive history in health, energy studies and life coaching. Emily has tailored personal/life coaching packages giving you loads of strategies and tools to empower you to create the life you love!