HI there,
It’s September 2015 and a time for shifting forwards for us all.
Growing up, I was not taught to feel or own my ‘negative’ feelings. It was the era of not allowing yourself to feel and if you did, you kept those negative feelings inside of you. Bless my parents, they did the best possible job parenting that they could. I am extremely sensitive, and no doubt as a child, would have energetically, picked up mine and other’s feelings (negative and positive) around me and not knowing what it all meant or who the feelings belonged to; and somehow owning other’s feelings as mine. Those of you, whom are also sensitive, I’m sure you will be able to connect with me on this.
Today, 2015 and beyond, we are learning to acknowledge and embrace BOTH positive feelings/states (light self) and negative feelings/states (shadow self). Accepting our polarities (both negative and positive) helps us to learn about who we authentically are.
To ‘Feel, Deal and Heal’ statement – I realise that I have been saying this statement to friends for years, even prior to my coaching studies.
To feel allows us to FEEL the negative feeling in our body; to DEAL or work out what the message/gift/guideline and call to action is and to finally to HEAL and let go of the negative feeling. This then allows us to find positive and empowering strategies to assist us in moving forwards in our life.
If the message that your feelings are trying to deliver are ignored, the feelings simply intensify until you pay attention. We need polarity/duality at all times as without one, we are unable to create the other.
A massive realisation that I have had is that any negative feeling/state, there is a gift and learning message for you to heal. Usually, it’s from a limited belief developed from early childhood (0-7 years) and in my belief (even in inutero). if we haven’t had a safe place to express our negative feelings in the past, and we repress these feelings, then stack them and usually we begin to identify with them. This is not our authentic self at all; it a limiting belief we developed many years ago!
Sometimes, we even find ourselves in re-occurring patterns and/or events and unable to move forwards. Or quite simply – similar negative feelings keep coming up for us, whatever they are… fear, guilt, anxiety, anger, depression, feeling different, not good enough etc. etc. If we are wallowing in these negative feelings/states, we become stuck and or the feelings then intensify…
To shift and move forwards, some transformational strategies include:
1. Create time out for you. Either sit upright or lie and take 3 long deep breaths into your heart space and feel the breathe go into your abdominal area and out again.
2. Allow yourself to feel what you are feeling. Whatever the feeling is – feel it. In your heart space – this is where your feeling centre is.
3. Spending 5 to 10 minutes per day and write how you feel/felt that day. If you need to, release tears. Own your feelings. Take responsibility for your feelings. Let go of the need to store feelings up. All feelings need to be released – negative and positive.
4. Connect to what your learning message is – what is this feeling trying to tell you?
5. Let go of the negative feeling – allow the feeling to leave your body.
6. Work out a positive and empowering feeling to change to – unconditional love (no judgements on your self or others); joy, excitement, courage – there are plenty of positive feelings to choose from.
7. Most of us need plenty of practice with this.. be kind to ourselves and congratulate ourselves for letting go and healing what needs to be healed. It’s massive and with most things – the more you practice this technique, the better you get at it, most importantly, you are healing yourself at a much faster rate too.
Recently, I found myself in a negative state, I felt really down and sad from an event the previous week. One night, I sat on my bed, spent time in my heart space and the tears flowed. Yes, it was like a river or flood in our bedroom!! The tears kept coming…. FEEL.
To DEAL – I worked out ‘ that I didn’t seem to be on the ‘same page’ as anyone at that very moment including partner and good friends. What was going on? I felt different! This was my limiting belief – That I AM Different!
HEAL – I released tears and instantly; ‘Unconditional Love” – the words came up for me and an image of a massive heart that oozed out love for myself and others. I took another final deep breathe in and out.. and there was a sense of calmness, contentment and inner peace that came through me. I completed the healing process with a positive affirmation – “I ACCEPT Myself” and “I AM LOVE”.
The following day, there were no negative feelings of sadness, mild depression or even feeling different. The realisation that we are all connected on this earth and unconditional love was well and truly needed for myself and others.
It truly is very OK to be vulnerable – there are many learning messages for us to heal.
If you are ready to breakthrough any limiting beliefs, barriers and challenges that are holding you back and/or assist you to work out what the negative feeling message/limiting belief that needs healing/letting go:
Then drop me an email at emily@empowerwithin.com.au to see if I can help you in any way with the many inspirational tools and strategies or for more information.
Enjoy your soul journey and connection to your heart space… it’s certainly worth it…
Love and wisdom;
Emily xx
Emily Murphy is an Intuitive Life Coach Consultant with a 25 year extensive history in health, energy studies and life coaching. Emily has tailored personal/life coaching packages giving you loads of strategies and tools to empower you to create the life you love!